Tired

bihet-dragonize:

Imma be really mean for a second but a lot of you aren’t recovering from your anxiety and ptsd because you don’t want to put in the effort. Recovery is not easy, nor is it fun, but it’s necessary and a lot of you don’t want to take the time to self-reflect and start practicing healthy coping. And I know a lot of you felt such relief when someone FINALLY said “Yes you are allowed to be hurt for what happened/is happening to you” and I relate SO heavily to that, but after a certain point you need to move beyond the idea that your anxiety and depression and ptsd are “normal”. They aren’t. They are symptoms of a larger issue and while that issue may be impossible to fight alone, y'all can find ways to alleviate that pain, but none of you will because you have begun to enjoy the excuse of “mental illness”. You all put no effort into learning better ways to de-escalate suicidal ideation. Y'all don’t try to practice healthy communication. Y'all don’t try to self-reflect. Y'all have gotten comfortable with your mental illness and you all view putting in any effort to be healthier as an attack. And I’m gonna be mean again and say it’s because you’ve come to form an identity and personality around your mental illnesses and that identity is not required to be held accountable for it’s actions and THAT is why you all incorrectly use that “Not everyone can be neurotypical, Karen” meme and you pull out your anxiety and ptsd when you’ve been confronted for hurting someone else. There’s no sweet or kind ending to this and this isn’t a passive post. Y'all have come to love your own pain because you think it’s an inherent part of you AND because it gives you “internet privileges”.

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tired-gay:
psa: its not hypocritical to criticize a system you’re dependent on. like if i had a dollar for everytime ive been called a hypocrite for critizing the psychiatric system while relying on it to help me; id be a rich man by now. its such a nasty way to make sure that the ppl most affected never get to be listened to, its also completely ignorant of how a good portion of psych patients are either directly forced or coerced into recieving said treatment
this is honestly such a double standard against the mentally ill tbh? if it were any other system no one would blink. to get anywhere in America you have to get a high school education, and even if you’re some sort of entrepreneurial genius, schooling is still compulsory until you can legally drop out. you’re dependent on that system by default. but no one says shit about people who point out the school system is fucked? honestly calling out people for being critical of the psychiatric system is just another way people paint mentally ill individuals as needy and whiny

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system-comforts:

Remember, you can use whatever terms you prefer with your system members. Want to call them alters? No problem? Prefer headmates? Go ahead! Use the language you all feel comfortable with.

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bipolarblueberries:

Starting a mood diary but forgetting to use it bc of depression is peak mood disorder culture

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Your mixed feelings about your parents are valid.

vajeentambourine:

Shout out to people like me who have parents who are loving but are black holes of emotional labor… It took me a long time to realize that it’s okay to have mixed feelings about your parents, about your relationship with them.
Sometimes parents can love you but be somewhat toxic to you and your growth, and that’s a very hard realization to come to if you, like me, grew up extremely close to them.
Sometimes parents can love you genuinely but lack emotional maturity, forcing you to perform disproportionate amounts of emotional labor. Some parents manifest symptoms of their mental illness in ways that are toxic to your mental illness.
Some parents, like mine, try so hard to be good parents but fall back on habits of emotional manipulation because they haven’t processed their own traumas and are modeling behavior they grew up with. That doesn’t make their behavior acceptable, and it’s okay to feel exhausted and hurt when they betray you. You don’t have to forgive every mistake.
I want you to know that it’s okay to protect yourself, to need some space apart from them. The love you have for your parents is still valid, and you are making the right decision.
Placing a safe emotional distance between myself and my parents has been one of the most difficult, heartbreaking processes I’ve ever gone through… it hurts to try to curb the strength of your own natural empathy around people you love. It feels disingenuous to your heart’s natural state.
But I promise you, you are not hard-hearted or ungrateful, and you are not abandoning them. You are making a decision about your own emotional, mental, and spiritual health.
I know what it’s like in that confusing grey area of love mixed with guilt and anxiety, of exhaustion and quasi-manipulation and unreciprocated emotional labor, and I promise you, you are not alone.
Your mixed feelings about your parents are valid.

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avtorsola:

just-shower-thoughts:
Telling children that you won’t get mad if they tell the truth and then getting mad about it will turn them into massive liars in the future
Something else that is very important to realize is that, even if you’re not angry, being upset with them and denying that you’re be upset is almost as bad. You can say that you’re not angry all you want, but the second you act anything other than calm and understanding, kids will pick up on it. And then, if they love, respect, or are scared of you, they’ll learn to lie so they don’t upset you, and then they learn to lie to avoid conflicts.
In short - if you promise not to get mad about something, and then find yourself getting upset over it anyway, explain that to the the kid. Let them know “Alright, I promised not to get angry with you. However, I am getting upset for X, Y, and Z reasons because I trust/care about/am concerned for you/other reason. But I am very, very happy and proud that you are telling me the truth, and I will do my best to focus on that, okay?”
Because guess what? Adults aren’t perfect. They never will be. Don’t pretend to be otherwise. Kids will know when you’re being honest with them, and (for the most part) they’ll respect it.
Don’t lie to your kids when you’re upset with them. They’re not dumb - they’ll figure out that they’re connected somehow, and then they’ll try to avoid that trigger again.

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